Nothing binds you except your thoughts; nothing limits you except your fear; and nothing controls you except your beliefs.  ~Marianne Williamson

Last week’s mindfulness practice was all about paying attention to the limiting beliefs that we carry with us. For me, the worn-out beliefs that I am undesirable to men and there aren’t any good ones out there anyway did a really good job of keeping me awkward and single for most of my twenties. And they also prevented me from taking in any evidence that contradicted those beliefs during those years. It suckity suck suck sucked.

In addition to making me feel sorry for myself any time I was around a couple or at a wedding or near a guy my age during my single years, that belief led me to stay in a relationship full of unmet needs for way too long. I was simply convinced that that was as good as…